by Winding Pathways | Feb 16, 2015 | Reflections/Profiles, Wonderment
This blog is selected portions of a service on Love. It was designed to help Peoples Church Unitarian Universalist move through a trying time and prepare for change in a positive manner by addressing the five tough tasks each congregation faces in transition. Kathleen took the front and back portions of the service. Marion composed and spoke the body of the sermon.
“Welcome to Peoples Church; we’re glad you’re part of the service today. I’m Kathleen Watson; Marion Patterson and I will be leading the service today.
“We apparently all survived one of the most clever bits of marketing propaganda ever to be fed to the American people: Valentine’s Day. While florists, chocolatiers, and greeting card companies focus on the joys of romantic love, any of us who have been around for more than a couple of years know that real love is a lot more than hearts and flowers – it’s more challenging, it’s more work, and it’s more rewarding. Today, we’ll talk about different types of love and how they can appropriately be both self-serving and other-serving.
“Part of our work as a congregation during this time of transition involves vision work – imagining how we want our church community to be. So sit back and enjoy as the Choir sings Imagine, by John Lennon; join in if the spirit so moves you.
“Love is the spirit of this church,
[CUE] And service is its law.
“This is our great covenant:
[CUE]: To dwell together in peace, to seek the truth in love, and to help one another.
“So may it be.
“Marion, will you light our chalice, please?
“Our words for the chalice lighting are written by Maureen Killoran: “In these hard times, let us look first to the response of love. In the midst of challenge, may our chalice flame bear witness to the inherent worth and dignity of every human being. In the midst of uncertainty, may our chalice be a beacon of encouragement, that our values may guide our choices. Let us look first to the response of love.” The words of Maureen Killoran. Please be seated.
“STORY: No, We Won’t.
“In keeping with my lifelong role as a late bloomer, I just recently saw the Harry Potter movies for the first time. (For anyone who hasn’t yet seen them, I’m issuing an official spoiler alert.)
“In the very last movie, Harry has chosen to die, because that’s what’s required to defeat the ultimate bad guy; he basically lets the evil Lord Voldemort kill him.
“Voldemort has Harry’s body brought back to Hogwarts School of Magic, and he “invites” the students and staff to become his followers. Well, actually he says, “Come forward and join us, or die.” You can tell that everybody is scared, because this is one of the most powerful wizards who ever lived. But none of the good guys move. They say, by their actions, “No, we do NOT accept you.” But then they’re appalled when one of their classmates steps forward.
“Neville Longbottom is one of the secondary characters who’s been pretty much a klutz through the first seven films, but in this one he really steps into his own power. He breaks ranks with his classmates, but to challenge Voldemort, not to follow him.
“Neville says, “Doesn’t matter that Harry’s gone. People die every day…friends, family. We lost Harry tonight; but he’s still with us – in here. He didn’t die in vain. But you, Voldemort, you will, because you’re wrong. Harry’s heart did beat for us – for all of us. It’s not over!”
“Actions speak louder than words. I figured the message, “Pay up or die” was a bit harsh, but I do invite you to act with love and generosity as we take up our weekly collection.
ORISON
“Dona nobis pacem; grant us peace.
“One of the most loving things we can do for another is to surround them with support and encouragement when they’re in the midst of challenging times. I invite you to call out the name of anyone who could use the well wishes of our church family. [WAIT!]
“As we embrace the Spirit of Life and Love which flows through each of us,
May we resist the temptation of the quick and easy;
May we be delivered from that which demeans and destroys life;
And may we live purposefully, joyfully, and compassionately in every moment, in every encounter, with everyone who crosses our path.
SERMON: What’s Love Got to Do With It?
“Based on the many different philosophies they passed down to us, it appears that the ancient Greeks had a lot of time on their hands to think about stuff.
“One topic they pondered was “love”, and they identified three distinct types. Eros is the love celebrated by Valentine’s Day – romantic or sexual love. Filios is the brotherly love felt by family, the comradely love shared among friends. And agape is more of a spiritual love, characterized by good will and benevolence toward others.
“One thing I’ve noticed is that many religions seem to value filios and agape, but not really eros. Even less do they see as valuable another type of love I don’t know the Greek term for – love of oneself.
“Acting loving toward yourself often gets a bad rap. Instead of acknowledging that an individual has a right to honor himself as much as he honors others, we call him selfish. Instead of admiring someone who stands up for herself, we call her self-centered. It’s like we’re stuck in an either/or world, where you can’t love others AND yourself. And yet, if you’re not kind to yourself, how willing are you going to be to act and feel loving toward others?
“But you don’t want to get too carried away with it! Love does NOT require us to always put others’ needs and wishes ahead of our own, to ignore comments or behaviors that make us uncomfortable, or to be a self-sacrificing martyr.
“Love DOES require courage, honesty, persistence, a damn good sense of humor, and a willingness to sometimes be wrong. One very effective way to move toward a more honest and loving relationship with those around us is by participating in Healing Circles. Peoples Church held some Circles last year, and participants agreed that – while they were not necessarily comfortable – they were very powerful.
“As we move through a period of major change at Peoples, we’ll have the chance to step out in faith and courage by taking part in more Circle work. Marion, as lead facilitator, has some stories to share about what we can look forward to getting out of that process.
SWITCH TO MARION!!
“How Circles help us love and honor ourselves and others.”
Marion J. Patterson
Sermon February 15, 2015
Peoples Church Unitarian Universalist
“Edward Markham: Outwitted.
“He drew a circle that shut me out.
Heretic. Rebel. A thing to flout.
But, Love and I had the wit to win.
We drew a circle and took him in.”
Healing Talking Circles are about Love.
Unitarian Universalist, Frances David has has been attributed this quote “We need not think alike to Love alike.”
Love transcends. Love grows us to our highest self.
Yet, (The Book of Love. 332) “Two minds and spirits of strength cannot expect to live in total harmony all the time.”
So, misunderstandings happen.
But, people come to church for community not conflict.
What to do?
Enter the Circles:
Indigenous populations with tradition of equality use Circles. A chief leads the tribe and often speaks for the group but in council assumes a modest role.
Knights of Round Table have a tradition of Circles.
United Nations is set up in Round Table formation.
Restorative Justice Circles adopted the tradition of the shape and the format with modifications for modern society.
Some schools use Circles to discuss both heavy and happy topics.
There is simplicity in circles.
In some ways they are easy and other ways challenging.
- We begin with an invocation to be fully present.
- Everyone present sit in the circle. EVERYONE.
- Each person has one chance to speak in each round.
- Each person speaks from the “I” perspective about the situation. Does not name others or blame. This takes practice.
- Each speaker holds a special object and passes it to the left. Counterclockwise.
- A person may “pass” – choose not to speak.
- Because we are in this modern society, we do have a time limit per person and total Circle time. This is to honor the group and other obligations we all have.
- The Facilitator – guides the flow. Does re-direct statements as needed.
- A Scribe make brief notes of concept.
- We end with a benediction to bless the Circle and each person as we prepare to leave.
Circles take work. Awareness. A Desire to change. Choosing to relate differently with self and toward others.
“Most people do not realize the opportunity for Love and friendship that are missed until too late to reclaim them.” (Book of Love 387)
We have chosen to use Talking Circles at Peoples Church to help us prepare for change. We look at our history – all parts; we choose to work through the issues and break repeated cycles of miscommunication and misinformation which result in hurt feelings and anger, confrontation and splintering, forming own “Country Kitchen Cliques”, people leaving and carrying resentment for years.
These patterns have become habituated at Peoples Church. Breaking the habituation takes conscious awareness – and courage.
Some behaviors serve us well; they are important to nurture. Other behaviors do not serve us well. But we persist with them. Until a crisis forces us to examine them.
Circles can offer a chance to do some soul searching and internal housekeeping.
Circles can be cleansing as we saw in September 2014 with the Heart Circles. What people shared was humble, tender, despairing, intimate, moving, and inspiring.
We found in September 2014 that through the circle process we could safely explore sadness, anger, loss. What we may think of as “dark issues.”
From one participant: “…while it didn’t make everyone magically agree or conflicts disappear, it allowed people to express their concerns and be heard in a respectful manner that reinforced everyone’s inherent worth and dignity as a human being, no matter which “side” they felt they were on.”
To work through this phase in right relations is critical. We tune in “to ourselves”. We honor and stay in the process.
From another participant: “I still harbor some uncertainty, anger and fear, HOWEVER – I do believe this Circle was a gateway for me to return to the church. I felt heard. I felt the personal impact of how this current situation affected/affects me was understood and respected. If you feel like you need a space to speak to your experience and/or you are feeling “weird” about coming to church, wondering if this is the right place for you, I would very much encourage you to attend the next circle.”
Success happens when we own our own “Shenpa.” A Buddhist term that is described as “Hooked. Sticky feeling.” “MeeYeowww!” (Pema Chödrön American Buddhist Nun)
Think of poison ivy or scabies (literally “to scratch”) – The first is an allergic oil from a plant. The second is highly transmittable by a mite. In both, the urge to scratch is almost unbearable, which makes matters worse. Breaks the skin, delays healing. Leaves scars. Discipline and treatment are required to heal fully.
Our Shenpa (bad mood, getting hooked by some situation) is like these: We itch it (act out our discomfort) and, with Shenpa, shake it onto others.
Three examples of everyday occurrence of Shenpa:
First: The other day a friend used a perfectly neutral term. It struck me wrong because I have heard it used by another person in a negative light. I tightened inside — that’s the shenpa. Until I pulled myself back to reason and logic. The term was the same. The situation different. The person is different. A friend.
But I was hooked momentarily.
Second: Let’s say you had an immunization shot to go abroad. Your arm is swollen and hurts. Someone gives you a hug and accidentally touches that part of the arm. How do you react/respond? In Shenpa or with equanimity knowing the person didn’t mean to hurt you?
Now these are both unintentional acts.
Third: this week three people who routinely skipped language arts high school equivalency classes I have previously taught at KCC, enrolled in a short term class I am teaching. When I saw the class list, I was nervous and had to calm myself. I could feel Shenpa rise up like bile. When they walked in I could feel a wall of resistance from them.
I greeted all students warmly and equally. I worked to stay centered and gracious. Within 1.5 minutes – I kid you not – two who refused to look at me, got up and left. The third one stayed 15 minutes and left.
The other students looked puzzled. I shrugged and calmly said, “Well, perhaps this isn’t the class they need.”
I had to actively work to “sit with my discomfort.”
…I had to really experience unease. I had to experience the itch. I had to experience the Shenpa and then not act it out.
I worked to stay genuine to move to a higher plain. And I still sometimes want to “whop these students upside the head” and yell, “What are you thinking? Who’s getting the short end of the stick by your walking out and not finishing your high school equivalency?” But, I don’t.
BTW: We had a great class challenging the students to remember LA, full of laughter and growing confidence.
These are three relatively minor examples of how Shenpa can grab us.
So what do we do when we felt attacked, betrayed, or confused… Pema Chödrön reminds us:
We have an opportunity to really notice what we do.
Did we close down, or did we open up?
Did we feel resentful and bitter, or did we soften?
Did we become more stupid or more wise?
As a result of our pain, do we know less about what it is to be human or more?
Are we more critical of our world or more generous?”
Do we dive back into Shenpa of past experiences or do we refrain?
Shenpa happens. It’s involuntary. Especially when we experience something that recalls a traumatic situation. The amygdalae and hippocampus (store emotional and short term memory) get going and the pre-frontal cortex needs time to sort out and process. We need to give our “reasoning self” time.
Yet we need to honor how we feel – not denying, not pushing it down.
Come to a place of equanimity – recognizing another’s distress but not buying into it.
So, we do not try to “cast out our discomfort”. It is going to happen. We “work to see clearly and fully experience what is happening.”
We know the Expression: “Don’t just sit there, do something.”
Circles advocate the opposite: “Don’t just do something,
sit there.”
In Circles – this is the dark part – we sit with our discomfort with what another may say. There is no place to agree or disagree or be disagreeable. As one facilitator has said, “No need to Yum the Yuck. Or Yuck the Yum.”
From a participant: “What I was impressed with was the way people shared and owned all kinds of feelings, both positive and negative. No one sugar-coated their mad / sad / hurt / scared feelings, and no one withheld their hopeful / encouraged / good feelings. Yay, us!”
When we are willing to see clearly and experience the experience, our “wisdom mind” – prajna – kicks in. Pema Chödrön reminds us that our “Wisdom mind is our birthright. It’s in every single living being ….”
(Paraphrasing here). We “…see the whole chain reaction.” We see the wisdom based on a fundamental desire for wholeness or healing that arises in us. We want to connect and live from our basic goodness, our basic openness, our basic lack of prejudice, our basic lack of bias, our basic warmth. We want to live from that. It begins to become a stronger force than the shenpa and itself stops the chain reaction.”
That is our first Tough Task in Circles. To own our congregational past. To own our own Shenpa. To sit in discomfort when we hear, see or think something negative. Then, shift.
Circles: Are Authentic. “By our own disappointments, we come to know ourselves.”
Circles are Open: (sing lines from Tina Turner’s song “What’s love got to do, got to do with it? What’s love but a second hand emotion? What’s love got to do, got to do with it? Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken?”)
Henri Nouwen, author of The Wounded Healer, answers this question of brokenness. It is the“…theology of service that begins with the realization of fundamental woundedness in human nature. Emphasizing that…this woundedness can serve as a source of strength and healing….”
We are called to recognize the sufferings of our time in our own hearts and make that recognition the starting point of our service.”
Circles are both easy and challenging.
The Value of Circles is coming together in peace, open heartedness and equanimity.
From a Participant: “It was a really nice way to let everyone express their feelings and it was great to see that everyone did so in such a respectful and direct manner. I’m really glad were are getting the person from the UUA, I know our church can come together and solve our problems.”
From a Participant: “For any who were uncertain as to whether this was a genuine attempt at creating a safe place in which to be heard, please be assured that it was just that. If you haven’t yet taken advantage of a Heart Circle, I really encourage you to come to the next one.
I feel everyone would truly feel better after speaking and being heard.”
Finally: These words from a participant of the Heart Circles: “When people get together with some softness in their hearts and a sense of community, it can be healing and bonding.”
And, so it is.
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Back to Kathleen: “So you see, circle work challenges us to think differently, to try to get inside the other person’s head and heart, and to acknowledge the past without getting stuck in it. I encourage everyone to make it a point to experience the Circles for themselves.
“Another tool set that can help us move through our time of transition comes from a program called Infinite Possibilities. I personally love it because it combines metaphysics with neuroscience to create a very do-able process for creating the changes we want to experience.
“IP ties in beautifully with Circle work because of some of its core tenets:
* Beliefs are reflected in our thoughts, words, and actions, and beliefs can also be changed through our thoughts, words, and actions. Circle work gives us an opportunity to start exploring our unstated beliefs.
*Negative emotions typically point to some limiting belief we have about the way life “ought” to be. When we examine and claim our emotions in a Circle, we stand to gain more insight about those beliefs and can choose to start shifting them to beliefs that serve us better.
* Emotions result from our beliefs and perceptions. When we speak honestly about our emotions and listen non-judgmentally when others share their emotions in the Circles, we can get a better understanding of where others are coming from – and they can do the same for us.
In our Order Of Service we claim, “This church is a welcoming congregation; we stand on the side of love.” We have great opportunities coming up to start living these claims more deeply and satisfyingly. Let’s all do our part to build that loving community. Who knows? We may even enjoy the ride.
BENEDICTION
As creators of our own experience, may we choose love over conflict, happiness over being right, and miracles over grievances.
by Winding Pathways | Feb 5, 2015 | (Sub)Urban Homesteading, Preparedness
Every once in a while every homeowners needs to cut wood. Hedges overgrow. Branches break and land in the driveway. Trees need pruning. And sometimes firewood must be cut.
There’s been a recent evolution in saws that helps homeowners manage trees and shrubs. Muscle powered types have been around for years. Gasoline chainsaws appeared in the 1950s and keep improving in ease of use, safety and efficiency. Recently, cordless electric saws entered the market. Each type saw has strong benefits and some drawbacks.
USING MUSCLES
If you just need to cut a few fallen branches, don’t buy an inexpensive chainsaw at a big box store. For small jobs a sharp muscle powered saw is often best.
Here are some advantages:
- Much less expensive than a chainsaw.
- No need for gasoline. Human power works and yields exercise!
- No noisy motor to barrage the air or break down.
- Need little storage space and last for years.
- Blade can be re-sharpened or replaced on a bow saw.
Here is one disadvantage:
- Although generally safe, they can inflict a nasty cut.
Two types of commonly available muscle powered saws are useful in the yard.
Bow saws look alittle like an old fashioned bow without the arrow. A tubular steel frame forms the bow and a replaceable blade is the “string”. They come in sizes based on blade length from 12” to 36”. Medium sized ones are best for most backyard chores. Bow saws are ideal for cutting fallen branches into firewood. A sharp one slices through a three inch diameter branch with ease. The downside of bow saws is their somewhat ragged cut. That’s hardly a problem with firewood, but a clean cut is important when pruning living trees. That’s where a pruning saw shines.
Pruning Saws look somewhat like carpenter’s hand saws but normally have larger teeth and sometimes a curved blade. They are designed to cut cleanly with little tearing so the tree heals easily.
Muscle powered saws are efficient IF THEY ARE WELL DESIGNED AND SHARP. Buy a quality saw and keep it sharp. Store it in a in a dry place where it won’t rust. For long term storage, for example over winter, put a light coating of oil on the blade to reduce odds of rusting.
A SHORT PRIMER ON CHAINSAWS
Chainsaws come into their own when lots of wood needs to be cut, especially if it is of large diameter.
Early model saws from the 1970s and earlier were heavy, noisy and vibrated severally. But, newer ones are easier and more comfortable to use. They also incorporate safety features lacking on old timers.
A chainsaw’s cutting teeth zip along at about 60 miles per hour. Every tooth passes the same spot on the bar about 20 times a second! When properly sharpened they roar through wood but can do instant and major damage to human flesh.
Using a chain saw properly and safety takes skill. Even the most experienced operators wear safety equipment and always remember to work safely. Too many people who have never used a chainsaw buy one, rev it up and begin cutting without getting proper training or using proper safety equipment. BE SAFE!
Chainsaws range from small lightweight inexpensive homeowner models to heavy powerful logging machines. A motor powers a sprocket that drives a tooth studded chain round a “bar”. Most bars range from 14 to 20 inches. Saws squirt oil from a small tank into the chain to reduce friction and heat.
Buying A Chain Saw: Most chainsaws sold by big box stores are, essentially, throw away models. They are inexpensive and fine for small infrequent use, but for long term durability, ease of use and repair, invest in a quality saw. Before you buy ask if the store has a repair department. If not buy your saw somewhere else. Quality saws are sold at specialty stores that also sell safety equipment, spare parts and maintenance supplies. Chances are the sales person is a seasoned saw operator who will coach a buyer on operating the saw, safety and maintenance.
Remember those cutting teeth go 60 miles an hour! BE SAFE. Always wear ear, head and eye protection, leather gloves, leather boots and saw chaps. Safety equipment can’t prevent all accidents but it can help reduce injury should something go wrong. About 40% of chainsaw injuries are to the legs. Chaps are like an apron made of materials designed to slow or stop a chain should it impact a leg.
Saws are noisy and can permanently damage hearing. Muffs that fit over the ears or small plugs that fit inside ears are essential. Some people choose to wear both types of hearing protection at the same time for ultimate noise reduction. Safety glasses help protect eyes from debris that sometimes flies off the saw.
Head injuries account for about half of chainsaw deaths! Wearing a stout hard hat reduces odds of a head injury. Some operators use a hard hat that has a face shield and ear muffs attached.
ALWAYS BE SAFE. Some other safety tips include:
- Have a first aid kit and cell phone handy.
- Regularly inspect safety equipment. Replace anything that seems faulty.
- Keep the saw sharp and well maintained
- Take breaks to ward off fatigue.
- Saw when others know you are sawing and can help if needed.
- Check the chain brake before starting the saw. If it is in the forward position the chain should be locked and not move.
Chainsaws are potentially dangerous. Using one efficiently and safely is a high skill that comes with a learning curve. In some areas chain saw classes are available. Websites, books and You Tube videos help a novice learn saw techniques and safety. Watch and read before starting the saw! Videos and books can also help a novice learn how to properly sharpen their saw’s teeth.
Probably the best way to learn saw operation and maintenance is to find an experienced mentor and spend time working with him or her.
ALWAYS BE SAFE. Many scenarios can lead to chain saw accidents but two are too common.
One is haste. It’s tempting to fire up the saw without donning safety equipment and hurriedly work when there’s only a branch or two to cut. Always don safety equipment and take your time. The second scenario is fatigue. Wood cutting is hard work and wise experienced loggers in superb physical condition recognize when they are getting tired and take a break.
Employees of the U.S. Forest Service often use chain saws. A standard greeting between two of their staff isn’t to say, “Hi” or “goodbye”. They say “BE SAFE”!
One gorgeous summer morning high in Idaho’s mountains I witnessed a serious chain saw accident that could have been completely prevented. Our crew was all seasoned operators and typically we took a mid-morning break to rest and sharpen saws. We were on an old logging road and one of our crew was sharpening his saw. We heard a yell and looked over to see him clutching his hand. Blood curled down his forearm from a deep cut on his palm. A crew member applied pressure, put on several layers of gauze, and taped it tightly. I was appointed to drive him to the nearest hospital, which was an hour distant. The doctor sewed the cut shut.The cut happened when his hand slipped while filing a tooth. The saw was not even running. Had he worn leather gloves there might have been a cut glove but an uninjured hand.
LESSON: Wear leather gloves, even when sharpening a saw. |
Wood carefully cut, split and stacked.
BATTERY AND ELECTRIC CHAIN SAWS
In recent years many new types of electric saws have entered the market. Most corded models are designed for light work, not cutting many cords of firewood. They are lightweight, generally less expensive than gas saws, quiet, cut well and need no gas, although they require oil to lubricate the chain. Their downside is the tether, so they are only useful near an electric outlet.
Cordless electric chainsaws saws are powered by a lithium ion battery. They are amazing machines that merge many of the benefits of gas and corded saws. Stihl and other companies sell a wide range of yard maintenance tools that operate on the same battery as the chain saw. This allows for flexibility.
Quality battery operated saws allow plenty of cutting on one charge, but for long time use it’s wise to have two batteries. When one is in use the other is on the charger. Stihl claims that a fully charged battery gives about 35 minutes of trigger time and takes about 25 minutes to recharge.
BE SAFE: SAFETY PRECAUTIONS FOR GAS SAWS APPLY TO ELECTRIC AND BATTERY MODELS
WINDING PATHWAYS AND SAWS
Winding Pathways co-owner Rich Patterson began using chain saws in 1974 when he logged on Idaho’s Boise National Forest. He had the good fortune to be mentored by several experienced saw operators. For four months he cut down huge trees and bucked them into lengths. Since then he’s used dozens of saws for firewood cutting, tidying up his yard and for removing fallen trees from trails and ecological restoration at two nature centers where he served as executive director. Over the years he has taught many people safe and effective saw use and he’s purchased and used chainsaws of many brands and configurations.
STIHL COMPANY PROFILE
by Rich Patterson
About a dozen years ago I used my first Stihl chainsaw and now that is the only brand I use. My current Stihl 290 is about eight years old and has cut over 60 cords of firewood. It’s
Safety gear and quality tools make for safe cutting of wood.
reliable, solid, easy to maintain and fixable. Only one time did I have a minor problem with it. At the store where I bought it, the staff looked it over the saw and had it running smoothly in just a few minutes.
The Stihl Company was founded by inventor Andreas Stihl in 1926 in Germany. It came came to the United States in 1974 and today makes a wide range of handy tools for managing trees, turf and other functions. Most are made in Virginia Beach, Virginia, with many components made in the United States.
Stihl’s website, www.stihlusa.com, is an amazing resource. It includes videos and articles that help teach how to start, safely use, sharpen and maintain saws and other equipment. There’s even a link to help identify tree species. The site offers excellent education and technical information about equipment.
The Internet is an outstanding resource for information on the use and care of equipment and wood characteristics among other topics. Just remember that Internet videos and blogs are only as good as the person who or company that produced them.
Be Safe and happy cutting!
on Valentine’s Weekend:
